MyJerks

[XavierSelph]

When you've wanted to get a conversation going with someone who interests you, what have you said to someone -- or what has someone said to you -- that actually worked?

I recall one time, when I was interested in a girl, I thought she had a lovely mouth (among other things). I briefly considered just remarking that she had a lovely mouth, but that seemed a little "off" in my mind, maybe rude. After thinking a bit, I approached her and said, "I couldn't help noticing that you have a perfect lower lip. Just perfect!"

She didn't know what to say for a moment, as I'm sure nobody ever told her (or probably anyone) such a thing. She understood it to be a compliment, but of course had to wonder if there might be something wrong with her upper lip, since I specifically didn't mention it. After a moment, she said, "Thank you ... I think. Is there something wrong with my upper lip?" I closely studied her upper lip for a moment (building the suspense) and then replied (holding my thumb and index finger close together), "Actually, it's this close to perfect, too." (Still a compliment, but suspense maintained. I had her full, yet appreciative attention at that point.)

She asked in what way it was flawed, and I immediately laughed and said it was actually as perfect as the other one; I just didn't want to overload her with the full compliment all at once. She laughed at that and could now relax. I introduced myself, and we had a nice long conversation. We left together at the end of the night.

Another time, I told a girl she was the second most beautiful girl I'd ever seen. How could she not (1) appreciate a compliment and (2) wonder who in hell was *the* most beautiful girl? More suspense, which got us a nice conversation, in which I told her who was the most beautiful -- my mom. That got a laugh, and we dated for awhile.

Yet one more time, I had been watching a very cute young lady in a bar. (I was playing drums in the band.) At one point, on a break, I was walking past her and stopped just long enough to look at her, smile and say, "Wow, you are just lovely!" and continued walking. She was looking at me the rest of the night. At the end of the night she came and introduced herself. We talked out in the parking lot for a long time after closing. Dated a few times, but we lived so far apart we couldn't make it last. (And it's true, she was lovely, inside and out.)

So, folks, share the things that have worked to get the two of you talking successfully.